Dear Agony Editor,

I was invited to a book club to discuss my latest book. It was a bad experience: half the group hadn’t seemed to have read the book, no one was prepared with any questions, and the bulk of my time was spent listening to everyone talk about their kids. It was a complete waste of my time. I’ve had positive experiences with book clubs before, and overall, I think they’re valuable for building my readership. So how do I prevent the bad ones?

Signed,

Bummer Book Club

Dear Bummer Book Club,

I’m sorry that happened to you. I bet many writers have had at least one bad book club experience throughout their careers. 

Book clubs are tricky for writers. On the one hand, it’s an opportunity to connect directly with readers – and feel like a bit of a celebrity. Chances are, book club members will remember you for taking the time to visit them, and that’s a good thing for building a community of readers and keeping you on their radar for your next book. On the other hand, book clubs can be awkward, not unlike a blind date. 

There are ways, though, that you can minimize those bad experiences. Start by asking a few crucial questions when contacted by a book club. “Have you had an author come to your book club before?” “What’s the format for the discussion?” “Will the group have prepared questions?” And, most important: “What kind of wine will you serve?” 

Setting expectations is key. Remember you’re not obligated to say yes to an invitation, even if they bought your book. It’s your time and it’s valuable, especially if you’re doing this out of goodwill. 

And to any book club members reading this, please be thoughtful when inviting authors to your book club. Time spent with your group could be taking writers away from their writing time. And while an author will be no doubt grateful you’ve selected their book, don’t put all the pressure on them to carry the conversation. Make sure everyone reads the book ahead of time, have questions prepared, and consider all the ways everyone stands to benefit. Remember that you invited the author. Try to make the time a rewarding and meaningful experience for everyone.